How To Talk To Your Child About Sex
How To Talk To Your Child About Sex
Talking with your children about sex can be difficult but it is important. If you want to be involved in shaping your child's ideas and attitudes about sex, start these conversations early.
Key points to remember about how to talk to your children about sex
- if you want to be involved in shaping your child's ideas and attitudes about sex, start these conversations early
- it's OK to feel nervous about talking to your child about sex
- treat the conversation with care and make sure you let them have their say – even if you disagree with something, or something they say takes you by surprise
- try to have lots of little talks, instead of just one big talk when they are a teen
- more and more young people are also learning about sex from pornography
- many young people say they are doing this because adults are too embarrassed to answer the questions they have about sex
- if your child wants to talk about sex - but not with you, you could try asking a trusted adult relative or friend to talk to them instead
You can also check some advice about how to talk to your child about pornography
What resources are available to help me talk to young people about sex?
Having 'the sex talk' with your young person is always going to be a bit awkward. But if you want to be involved in shaping your child's ideas and attitudes about sex, start these conversations early. Below are some resources that can help you to start a conversation with your young person about sex.
The Family Planning website has a series of pages on information for young people and parents.
They say: "We understand that talking with your child/tamaiti about sex, sexuality and relationships can be challenging. But talking is important - it shows your young people that you think this is important and that you're someone they can talk with and come to for help and information. It's also important to remember that this is not just one conversation - it's going to be many conversations across many years."
- talking with children
- understanding the body
- about sex
- safer sex
- how to talk with your children about consent
- talking with teens about sexual responsibility
- sexually transmissible infections
The Parenting Place website has some useful suggestions on how to start a conversation about sex.
They say: "You may not have learned about sex until your early teens yourself and that is because information was far less accessible when you were growing up. All you had was the dictionary's definition of sex and that one puberty lesson with the oldest teacher at your school. This generation has so much access to information that if you want to be involved in shaping your child's ideas and attitudes about sex, start these conversations early."
JUST THE FACTS
JUST THE FACTS is a website run by the Sexually Transmitted Infections Education Foundation (STIEF). It is a project funded by the Ministry of Health through district health boards to educate New Zealanders about sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
- just the facts on STIs
- what is safer sex
- just the facts on condoms
- virginity and the hymen myth
- links for advice and support
- looking after your vagina
- looking after your penis
- looking after your anus
- worried about pregnancy and STIs
The REAL Sex Talk - Villainesse
The Real Sex Talk is a 12-part web series designed to educate Kiwi teenagers about sex in an approachable, yet informative way. Local medical experts feature in each episode, providing practical advice and information that answers many of the questions that Kiwi youth have when it comes to sex, sexual health, relationships and identity. Rape Prevention Education, Family Planning and RainbowYOUTH have all been consulted on the series and support the project.
The Ministry of Health
The Ministry of Health has resources on how to talk to your teenager about sex.
They say: "Being a parent is a difficult but exciting job. Talking to your teenager about safe sex is a vital part of your role as a parent."
- talking with your teenager
- HealthED resources on talking with your teenager in English and te reo Māori
- HealthEd: you and your teenager
This page last reviewed 11 September 2020.
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